FAMILY
Obviously, a typical AFS host family doesn’t exist. However, it is certain that you will have times of joy, times of sorrow or even conflicts, and times of just being together. Be open and frank in the relationship with your family! Ask your family to be honest with you, too! If you do not understand something because of language barriers or cultural differences, ask your family to explain it to you again! Don’t hesitate to ask questions! Be fully aware that AFS expects you to respect the rules of your host family (e.g. curfews, meals together), even if you are over 18! Be aware that you will have to fit in with the lifestyle of a family, which may be totally different from that of your own!
Holidays and other family activities are spent together in many families. You are welcome and expected to participate in them, and should not behave as a tourist. Consult with your host family when planning activities! This will make them feel that you are part of their life and vica versa. Last but not least remember that they host you on a voluntary basis, without being paid for their hospitality, therefore they are interested in you, in your country and culture, as well. Be ready to share your knowledge and your cultural heritage with them!
SPECIAL EVENTS
Besides birthdays, in Hungary we do celebrate name days as well. Each day of the year is attributed to a name, and if you cannot find yours in our calendar, pick a day together with your family for yourself. Flowers and sweets are usual gifts on such occasions.
On the Eve of Saint Nicholas, on the 6th December kids are supposed to clean and polish their boots or shoes and put them in the window-ledge so the MIKULÁS (Santa Claus) can leave some presents, such as nuts, sweets and chocolate in them. You can also join and practice this tradition and surprise your family members and friends with some little chocolate ”mikulás” – it will be highly appreciated.
Please keep in mind that Christmas is a family event in Hungary. The family members don’t go out to celebrate with friends, but the close family has a peaceful celebration at home on the 24th December and visit almost all the family members between 25-26 th December.
Hungarian people usually spend New Year’s Eve with friends. They go to a house-party or organize one themselves. Some of them go to clubs or to the streets.